The phone kept ringing. Ade pressed the ignore button and switched off the phone. He was not interested in anything thing she had to say.He checked the time, 3:05 am ,whatever little sleep he thought he was going to get had suddenly disappeared ,maybe he should try to get some work down. He got off from the bed and went down downstairs .
Somewhere else, two people were having a conversation on the phone. “she is back ,and she wants to see him, we cannot let that happen ,they can’t find out anything. We must prevent them from seeing each other. The voice on the end replied “We”? There is no we.
They started arguing, threats were made. One of them did not want to talk again and decided to end the conversation and said “let me make it perfectly clear Tola, even if you try to blackmail me I am not helping you again and the call was disconnected.”
It was after eleven o’clock Tuesday night when Gwen walked into her house. She’d spent a long day in the office. She needed to find something to occupy her mind, but after realizing she’d spent nearly two hours staring out the window, thinking of nothing but Ade and the fact she had not been able to reach him. It had been two weeks since she tried to call Ade. It seemed like he was avoiding her. But she needed to speak to him. If they to work together they needed to clear some things and put the past behind them even though it would not be easy for her, she didn’t know how she would act if she saw him..
Her house was cool, quiet, lifeless. She picked up the wedding invitation of her friend Dayo. Everyone managed to fall in love and get married but her? She had met Dayo through Ade . Dayo’s fiancé Frank were roommates in university. The four of them used to go on double dates in the past. She had not kept in touch with Dayo when she left the country, they had run into each other at the Spa when she went for her weekly appointment. It had been a nice reunion, they had talked, but consciously avoided talking about Ade. They exchanged numbers and Dayo invited her for a Barbeque party at Frank’s house ,“it’s just a small party, Just a few friends nothing elaborate” she had said. The barbeque was tomorrow what was she going to wear? Was Ade going to be there? Sigh . She would just have to wait until tomorrow.
The barbeque was more like a couples get-together , she had met two couples there, plus Dayo and Frank and her altogether there were seven people at the party. They were sitting outside at the back of the house and getting to know each other. Everyone was very nice and friendly, but she felt alone, she was the only single person here. Although Dayo said she was expecting one more guest. She decided to go into the kitchen to get ice water. When she got in she noticed Frank was talking to someone, a man but he had his back to her so she could not see his face. She had worked passed them when she heard the voice. She turned back to see it was Ade. Ade had stopped talking with Frank and was looking at her.She just stood there. So many questions rushed through her mind, what was he doing here? Did Frank and Dayo plan this, what was she going to say? She didn’t like being caught off guard. How was she going to control her emotions. Why today of all days did she have to see him?
I think I will leave you two to talk frank said and walked out of the kitchen. Ade walked out of the kitchen, she quickly followed him “Ade wait” she said. He walked past the dining area into the sitting room and stopped and turned. “What do you want”? He asked.
The room was quiet as they stared at each other as if waiting for something to happen. Gwen broke the silence, “I have been wanting to talk to you, I have left messages with your P.A and tried calling you several times . Are you avoiding me?
Ade replied ,”why would I be avoiding u? I have just been busy. How are you? You look great, you are much slimmer than the last time I saw you .Are not over working yourself? “No I am not. Your concern is sweet,” she said. “Misplaced, but sweet. I need to speak to you about a business proposal. I did not want awkward situation when we met in a business meeting so I decide to talk to you first. but this not the time and place to rally discuss it, we need to set an appointment so we can talk. “We have nothing to talk about Gwen, I doubt we can do business together”. He stood up to leave.
“How is Tola? She blurted out . She knew his life and what he did with it was none of her business but she could not help herself. She kept on talking.“I heard you guys are together now. Are you going to get married to her? Do you plan to spend the rest of your life with her like you planned with me?
“Well, you ruined those plans, didn’t you? Are you here to ruin my life some more Gwen? Why are we having this conversation? I don’t have time to discuss this “You have no right to ask about my life or even care.” Why?” she asked, in disbelief. Of course I care about you. We were friends before we became a couple. I care a lot about you. I thought we could still be friends.“You’ve never cared about anyone, except yourself Gwen, you and I can never be friends again.” He turn and walked away.
Why are you treating me like this Ade? What did I do to you? He turned to look at her the hurt was evident in her eyes ,he walked back towards her ,when he got to her he forced her to look up at him, holding her shoulders so she couldn’t look away. “How did you expect me to react after seeing you after such a long time. You left me to marry someone else and you were pregnant for him. Gwen looked at him like she had just heard the most shocking news that she had ever heard in her life.
Ade what are you saying??? I have never been married or pregnant in my life. When I got to the states I started to work for Joe. We were together, he wanted to marry me, I just could bring myself to fall in love with him and we spent a lot of time apart because of work, so I broke things off .Gwen told him she and Joe had decided a year after they started dating that they had grown apart. For the entire time that she had been living in the states, she had studiously avoided romantic entanglements. Her relationship with Joe had been exceedingly complicated near the end. She was enjoying the simple life.
This is unbelievable, so you are not married ? So why did we break up ? Why did you break up with me? Gwen looked at him and said, “Did you think you could fool me, do not even try to deny it ,I know all about the child I saw the pregnancy test”. “What child ?”Ade asked confusion written all over I know about the child you had with Tola ,did you really think I would marry you after you cheated on me and me knowing that you were having a child with another woman?
What? !!! Ade exclaimed.
To be continued …………………………………………….
Checking his Swiss Watch for the third time, Ade impatiently drummed his fingers annoyingly on the table of Fashbelle’s restaurant. On Friday night, the restaurant in Adeola Odekun Victoria Island was packed. He’d made reservations a week ago for Tola’s birthday a week ago.It was very difficult making reservations in this Resturant especially on a friday night,but being the son of the third richest man in the country had its advantages. Ade had paid for a whole section of the Restaurant so they would not be disturbed. She was almost an hour late. His cell phone rang. “Where are you!” he answered with a growl. There was so much noise in the background, she yelled back, “I am still in Festac and I am stuck in traffic, I can’t make it.
He replied “Tola if this is a joke you need to stop it right now. I have been waiting for you for close to an hour ,You know how much effort I put into making this night special for you . “Well I am sorry I can’t make it,I might be stuck here all night” she said , and I would be too tired for anything else by the time I get there. Call me later ,and she hung up before he could get a word in edgewise and even wish her happy birthday once more.
Tola had been acting differently ever since she found out that Gwen was back in the country.Gwen had tried to get in contact with him through his sister Fola. Well he won’t blame her if he was in her shoes he probably react worse than she was behaving. Gwen had been the love of his life.
He paid for the meal he had ordered while waiting and left the Restaurant. On the drive home the question that had been on his mind the past few days was why Gwen wanted to see him. There was definitely no room for a Reconciliation.So was it to apologise?Well she could keep her apology to herself.He was still very angry at her. She was the one who had broken off their relationship, to say he had been brokenhearted would be an understatement,he had been shattered. She was the only woman he had ever loved and she had made a fool out of him. It had come from nowhere and she had said that she had stopped loving him. Where did all her love go? The best thing was him avoiding her,and Gwen leaving him alone and returning back to the states and everyone getting on with their lives. Their break up had been four years ago,he had not seen or spoken to her since then,it was too late to apologise.
He got home within 45minutes,he lived in ikoyi in an expansive estate in the Mansion he had designed himself.He was an Architect by Profession although he did not pratice because he ran one his father’s companies.It was what was expected of him. He had always wanted to design the house he would get married and have kids in. When he and Gwen were still together, he always thought they would live here together. She had even said she would do the interior decorating since that was that what she was into.
He switched off the house alarm got into the house and switched it back on.Apart from the servants,and drivers,He lived by himself. This house was really too large for just one person, but thanks to his cousin Maria and sister Fola who preferred living with him than with their parents in their family house, he didn’t feel lonely at times. However they were in the states now having fun in Maimi and he was alone.
He undressed and took a shower and got ready to sleep, then remembered he had to call Tola .She had totally escaped his mind. He decided to call her but her number was busy. He decided to wait a while and called again,it was still engaged. “who could she be speaking to at this time”? He thought .After trying several times he gave up and decided to go sleep. But sleep eluded him. He was still thinking about Gwen.
They had met in an Art gallery in Abuja. She was among the few people that came to see the Artist’s exhibition that day. However he had brought a date that day, a lady he was seeing then,but didn’t plan on having anything serious with.She had been bored .She couldn’t understand why anyone would be interested in art or even think of buying it.She felt it was a waste of money. After they had seen about three paintings,she had excused herself to go to the ladies.
Gwen had been studing a particular painting. From behind she had a very nice figure, he didn’t give the lady much thought until she turned to her side to face him when he stood by her side also trying to view the painting she had been looking at. Wow! Yes Wow was the word that came to his mind when he saw her, she was beautiful! She said hello,smiled and turned back to keep looking at the painting on wall, lost in thought as if the painting were silently speaking to her. It was the smile that got him, she had the most beautiful smile he had ever seen.
He turned to look at the painting but his mind really on the lady by his side. Then she walked off, just like that without a second glance, he wanted to go after her but just then his date found him.
It was when he decided to try to buy the particular painting they had been looking at, he ran into her again, she was with another lady and they wanted to buy the painting or so it seemed.
As it turned out Gwen knew the Artist, they were very good friends. Roy the Artist was equally a very good friend of Ade,so he used the opportunity to get more information about Gwen.
It turned out that Roy and Gwen were childhood friends and they saw each other as siblings because she had practically grown up with Roy and his siblings,when she lost her father at the age of six in a plane crash and her mother who had been a housewife had to bring Gwen and her younger brother up.
After the exhibition he found out that he couldn’t get Gwen out of his mind.He wanted to ask Roy for her number,but he didn’t know if she was single or had a boyfriend or was even married.A lady as beautiful as that had to be taken. They met again at a party organised by mutual friends.she had been the one who walked up to say Hello. Hi, do you remember me Roy’s friend we met at an Art Exhibition? Yes I do “Ade replied. They sat together through out the event and chatted like long time friends. After the party,they exchanged contacts and started calling her.First they became friends and within the next six months were an item.They liked the same things,they both liked Art,they had the same taste in music and could talk to each other about anything.They were together for three years.There was a guy called Joe who had always been intrested in Gwen. She had never paid him any attention, she said she just saw him as a friend.Joe was also an Architect and owned a very successful Architectural firm.Joe was still after Gwen even when she told him she was getting married to Ade. Joe had wanted her to work for him but Ade refused because he couldn’t stand the idea.He really disliked Joe but he never felt threatened by Joe when it came to Gwen’s love for him but he did not want Joe around her. When they were together, he was the happiest man on earth. His friends liked her,and they envied him.His sisters Fola and Jennifer,accepted her, she had a warm personality and was friendly not forgetting very Beautiful.Fola and Gwen clicked from day one,they became good friends.
The only people that did not accept her were his parents. His father was outraged ,”Ade you know I have always wanted you to get married to Tola Afolabi. Her father and I have always talked of your union since you were kids. And you know Tola loves you! This girl you want to marry ,where is she from? Who is her father? Does she know who you are? How do know she is not a Golddigger? I will only give my blessing if its Tola you marry.
His mother did not help matters either,she was never warm to Gwen,she also loved to use any opportunity to bring Tola’s name up especially in the presence of Gwen or invite Tola to any family gathering or party they had.
It also didn’t help that Tola liked to come to his house uninvited and Gwen had met her at his place several times with Tola always making her departure very dramatic and suspicious.Tola was very jealous of Gwen and always didn’t miss the opportunity to say something nasty or disturbing to Gwen. Gwen had been worried,but she would always tell him that she trusted him but she didn’t trust Tola.
At that time, Gwen had been working as an Event planner but wanted to start her own business as an Interior decorator but didn’t have start up capital. He had offered to give her the money several times but she had refused.She would always smile and say that she didn’t want any one to call her a Golddigger.
She always said she could never love anyone the way she loved Ade. But all that love dissappeared .She had dumped him and left the country with Joe.He later found out that she had been pregnant for Joe.
A loud sound broke through his line of thought and he discovered it was his cell phone ringing. The time said 3am. Who could be calling at this time?there was no name on the caller ID which was strange because only family and very close friends had this number,and he had everyone’s number stored on his phone,he didn’t want to pick but had an afterthought that could bean an Emergency. Ade picked up the phone “Hello. A female voice came on,”Ade”,he was chilled to the bone.He knew that voice anywhere,It was Gwen.He cut the call. Five seconds later his phone rang again,he stared at his phone trying to decide if he should pick the call. Should he pick the call?
To be continued………….
DONT GIVE UP»HAVE FAITH
Everything would be okay in the end, if everything is not okay, then its not then end .. This is how I motivate myself.
Have you ever felt alone, so tired of life ,frustrated and tired of trying so hard over and over again without getting results and you like you are hanging on to your last strength and you want to give up? Please don’t give up. It is when things are the hardest, that’s when a miracle is coming.
You may have had so many disappointments, so many people have told you No, friends have turned their backs on you and no one even believes in you. You know what all you need is one Yes. All you need is someone to believe in you. I believe in you. You can make it, If you can dream it you can achieve it.
Nothing is impossible. Just try to imagine the inventor of the television sharing his idea for the first time with people. His friends may have thought that he has gone mad. But look today, there is almost no place in the world that there isn’t a television set. Or should we get started with the inventor of the light bulb. There are so many examples to give, but the lesson to take from each of them is “never give up”.
Here are a few steps to help in motivating yourself:
Cut away from anyone who does not believe in you, they will only bring you down. Surround yourself with people who understand and see your vision.
Look at yourself in the Mirror each day and say to yourself ,I can do it,I am a winner.
Make a plan of how you are going to get things done. Like the saying goes if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
Hard work: Any very successful person will tell you that one of the secrets of success is Hard work. Do not waste your time playing around or feeling sorry for yourself I can never achieve anything and it never will.
Always and I repeat “Always” say positive things to yourself every day. Also make sure people around you stay positive or are positive people.
Reports that Maroon 5 singer and The Voice coach Adam Levine had split with his Victoria’s Secret model girlfriend Anne Vyalitsyna after Levine reportedly showed up to a Super Bowl party in Indianapolis alone.
At the party hosted by model Erin Heatherton and John Legend, a source said of the singer, “He wasn’t hitting on any girls.
Levine and his model girlfriend have been dating since 2010 . Levine’s rep told E! News that they are still together its just a rumor,. Levine’s rep also told the Post that rumors of a split are “100 percent not true.
Blue Ivy Carter’s mama stepped out on the town twice this week to support hubby Jay-Z’s back-to-back performances at Carnegie Hall and she looked stunning both times. She looked amazing, for someone who just had a baby I she look pretty fit.
The first night, Beyoncé wore a figure-hugging Alice by Temperley red dress and the second time she donned a dark, sequined, figure-flattering creation from Monique Lhuillier.
Beyoncé Offered ‘X Factor’ Seat
New mom Beyoncé Knowles is reportedly being offered $100 million a year to become a judge on The X Factor. She¹d be filling one of the two seats left open when producer Simon Cowell fired judges Paula Abdul and Nicole Scherzinger earlier this week. X Factor still lags behind rival American Idol in viewership, but Cowell reportedly thinks that Beyonce could turn things around. Beyoncé appeared on the British version of X Factor in 2008.
Daddy Showkey escapes assassins’ bullets.This is the third time in the last nine months, Daddy Showkey escaped death by the whiskers.According to Showkey, it happened on Tuesday 10th January 2012, at at about 8.30pm two persons suspected to be hired assassins shot him twice at close range before escaping on a motorcycle.
Chineu Ikedieze and his wife Nneoma are back from their honeymoon.Chinedu and his wife Nneoma reportedly flew back to Nigeria on Friday,January 20,2012 and they plan to spend valentines day in the USA.They reportedly spent seven days in Abu Dhabi,United Arab Emitates’ capital city.
P-Square, Duncan Mighty, MI reportedly had the top best selling album in 2011 .
Tuface Idibia, he’s expectin his sixth baby from Pero Adeniyi who already has two children for him while sunmbo Ajaba has two for him, and Annie Macauley has a child for him.This was confirmed by Tuface’s media manager.
Nollywood actress Eucharia Anunobi Acquired a N10m BMW X5
Kefee has opened a Resturant.The Kokoroko Hitmaker opened a New Restaurant in Lagos and named it Branama Kitchen
Veteran Actor Sam Dede Now Rivers State DG of tourism.It seems this the new trend in Nollywood as Actors e.g RMD are gradually going into Politics.
Top 5 Movies In The Box Office for this year Internationally-
(1)Mission: Impossible – Ghost Protocol(2)Sherlock Holmes: A Game of Shadows
(3)Alvin and the Chipmunks: Chipwrecked
Adele annouced to fans recently, I’m immensely proud to have been asked to perform at this year’s Grammy Awards,” This will be her first performance since her throat surgery.
Karen Kingsbury Christian Romance Writer announced her new video trailer via facebook,it is the final book in the Bailey Flanigan Series.
With Nicole Scherzinger, Paula Abdul, and Steve Jones gone, where reported fired from The X Factor by Simon Cowell.However when asked how this situation would affect his relationship with long time friend Paula Abdul, he said “No, Paula and I will always stay friends”.
Tom Cruise, Tom Hanks, Jennifer Lopez, and cast of ‘Bridesmaids’ to present at this year’s 2012 Oscars.
BET network bans Nicki Minaj’s New Video.It has been reported that BET Network has banned her ‘Stupid Hoe’ video
Everyone woman loves to look good and are trendsetters in fashion. However many are of the belief that before they look good what they wear has to be very expensive. Well they got that wrong, it’s just a matter of combining the right clothes meant for your figure and what you are comfortable in.
Let me give you some tips on how to look good effortlessly.
1. A Jacket over a Top and Pants
Note however to choose bright colors. Not too bright but the type of color that will get you noticed. Your pants/trousers should always be fitted i.e. fitted to your body, fitted but not tight. Then wear a nice jacket over it. The length of the jacket depend on on your size and torso . Accessorize as desired but don’t go over the top. Pair up with the right shoes and bag/purse depending on the outing and you are good to go.
2.A Top/blouse/shirt and a skirt
Pairing a top/blouse over a skirt is always a very good combination.Remember that fitting is the key to making the clothes look great on You.
Long skirts are back in fashion ,as we saw on Actress Kristen Durnst and on Toolz Long skirts look better usually if they are high waisted and are they three quarter skirts.
Never underestimate a brooch and the wonders it can do for your outfit. Use brooches that compliment the look/appearance your going for. A brooch can change an outfit from completely boring to stylish and Elegant.
4. A dress
You can never go wrong with a dress. It works every time and helps cover does Bulges that you want to hide. You can either either sew the dress or buy it,which ever ever you prefer,especially these days. Since the Ankara Revolution a lot of people prefer to sew their dresses,to make creative designs. The best type of dress are the ones that end slightly above the knee, the dress shows a little bit of leg but not too much leg.A little tip to know if you should wear heels or flats with your dresses is this,place your arms on both sides of your body,if u dress is longer than the tip of your fingers you should wear heels,but if your dress is the same length as your fingers or shorter than them,wear flats.
Do you ever get the feeling that there are three people in your relationship – you, your guy or girl and the ex? Does he/her still talk or email with them often? Or maybe he/she holds an unhealthy grudge, or seems preoccupied with what their ex is doing now? If any of these scenarios sound familiar, it may mean that he/she hasn’t completely let go yet.
How can you tell if your is not really over his ex? Here is some points 2watch out for………
1. He/she wasted no time before jumping into his next relationship. If you started dating this guy shortly after his latest breakup, there’s a good chance he/she not completely over their ex – no matter what is said. “There are hopes and dreams we have when we get into a relationship that we lose when we lose that relationship,” “It takes some time [to get over those things].” even though it can be instrumental in helping them assess the relationship and move on. “You want to be sure your partner can talk about it – that he can analyze it a little bit, and can say what went wrong and what went right and what part he played in what went wrong.” But even if he/she isn’t quite there, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. “It just means you need to understand that he still has some processing to do, and he’s probably going to do some of it with you.”
2. He/she fell for you before his relationship ended. These are men like John Edwards and Tiger Woods, who tell you their previous relationships are over or broken, but they still go home to their wives or girlfriends. It sounds obvious, but these guys are bad news. “It doesn’t matter if he/she says the relationship was bad, “your partner has a cheating mentality.” And if he cheated in the past, he/she probably wouldn’t have a problem with cheating on you. Even if he/she does eventually leave their Boyfriend/ girlfriend – a very big if, by the way — and you’re willing to give it a go with this person, he/she literally hasn’t had any time on their own to process the demise of that previous relationship so you could run into the same problems as in #1, above. Bottom line: This is probably not someone you want to be with.
3. When it comes to an ex, he only deals in extremes. If your girl /guy can’t say their ex’s name without spitting or get emotion, this is another warning sign. “If they talk about the person constantly, and he/ she’s either the most wonderful thing in the world or the most terrible thing in the world, but it’s unrealistic, you need to ask her/him about his role in the relationship, There are two people in every couple, and there’s no way his ex was as great or awful as he/she makes them sound. “If your partner is not talking about it at all, you need to say ‘I think it’s valuable for us to talk about our past relationships so we can see what went wrong and what we need to do differently in this relationship.’”
4. If your partner can’t break the string. There are plenty of reasons a person may stay in touch with his ex, and they aren’t necessarily all bad. “If they are family friends,they have kids in common, they have to be in contact,” “If they were together for a long, long time, there’s also some reason for contact.” But if neither situation applies, and he/she still won’t stop talking to the ex, you should initiate a conversation about the ex, – carefully. “What you don’t want to do is set yourself up against the ex,”
5. He/she obsesses over the remnants of the relationship. Always checking their ex Facebook profile or you catch him/her poring over old pictures, you could also have a problem. “Its not finished,your partner hasn’t moved on.
You have to understand that if you stay in such a relationship , you’re going to be part of all this.” when you’re in a relationship you talk about just about everything. Whether it’s work, friends or family, there’s always something to discuss over dinner, and past relationships should be no different. Let your partner know you’re open to talking about exes. Discussing this could help him/her work through their feelings and move forward – and may even bring the two of you closer together.
If your partner hasn’t completely let go of their ex, proceed with caution – but know that your relationship isn’t necessarily a lost cause. He/she may want to be with you, but needs just a bit more time to deal with his breakup. The key to making it work is both of you being willing to talk openly about old relationship and old feelings. If, when all is said and done, he/she just can’t let go, you may have to be the one who moves on.
This was a message that was sent to me recently by a friend.”Do u know the relationship between your two eyes? They blink together, move together, cry together, see things together & sleep together. Even though they never see each other. Friendship should be just like that and you and I are like that. I just want to let you know that I appreciate you”. I was very happy to read this and I never intend to delete the text from my phone. In my short time here on earth. I can say I have been blessed with very good friends. I have also had my share of bad friends, who have let me down and those who where friends only because of what they could get from me. But in the end, I still have very good and loyal friends who have and always will be there for me.
These days it seems only common interest/activities are the basis of most friendships. Once the interest on the side of one party dwindles so does the friendship. Should it really be so?
I do not believe just because you’re are not interested in the same things anymore you should not hangout every more or stay friends. I know and have met people that have been best-friends for many years, that are as different as night and day.A wise person once said “Good friends are those who care without hesitation, who remember without limitation and who love even without communication”.
Yes I am also of the believe that 20 friends can’t play together for 20 years, but can’t I think 2 friends can play together for 20 more years if they choose to. So why are friendships dissolving why are once best friends now strangers.
Well I decided to carry out a little research as to why some people don’t remain friends and I have listed out them out for you my dear Readers.
1) Interest: I have found out that is a major variable to either make or break friendship. As people get older, they begin to experience changes in their various interests. The activities they previously used to enjoy doing they may suddenly find it too boring or just not be that into it anymore and want to find/explore more interesting and satisfying activities.
For instance Chioma and Trisha who are both in their early Twenties, have been friends since their Secondary school days. They are both the indoor type of girls. They prefer to stay indoors and read novels and listen to music. But in the last year Chioma has started going to the clubs and partying late. She dresses differently and doesn’t visit Trisha anymore. Each time Chioma Visits Trisha she always spends half of the time talking about some New club or Restaurant she had just been to some of her other friends and is always telling Trisha just how Boring sitting at home is.
Well Trisha doesn’t see anything wrong with this as she is a homebody but doesn’t say anything . Visits and Calls to each other become less frequent and within a while they are no longer in contact with each other.
2) Communication: As we saw in the story above lack of communication contributed to the end of their friendship. If there isn’t any communication/Bad communication in any relationship where it be Friendship platonic or a Romantic relationship you can kiss that Relationship goodbye.
Feedback is “very important”. Let your friend know that you are and you are there for him or her. Always have a shoulder for your friend to cry or rely on.
Also be a very good listener. All some people want is someone to talk to. This is why in the States people pay a lot of people to talk to their psychologists who were complete strangers to them and open up about problems that they find difficult to share with their loved ones.
Never be Judgemental. Remember what Jesus said “whoever is without sin let him be the one to cast the first stone”. If your advice would hurt your friends, always start by assuring them that you on their side and that you love them unconditionally.
3) Distance : This could be as a result of Job change, Marriage, Relocation and Education. However in this area, I still feel it is a matter of choice . If you still choose to remain friends with a person if you want to. The problem of Distance has been taken care of with the advent of the cell phone and social Networking media e.g. Facebook, Twitter, Instant Messaging(e.g. Blackberry and Iphone Messengers)
4) Relationships: In some cases the problem is that you don’t get along with your friend’s boyfriend or girlfriend. This may not sound like a very serious issue, but this has lead to a lot of very long time friendships ending. A very good example is the relationship of Lauren Conrad and Heidi Montag of “The Hills”. Lauren and Heidi had been friends since they were teenagers. They did almost everything together. Lauren and Heidi’s boyfriend Spencer, never got along and hated each other. Heidi was always in the middle of everything and eventually had to choose between her best-friend and her Boyfriend. She chose her Boyfriend who she is now married to and herself and Lauren are no longer friends.
If you are no longer friends with a particular person/person that you used to be close to and you grew apart for no reasonable
reason and you miss them. my advice to you is pick up your phone and make that phone call now!
(i didn’t write this, its just a story i decided to share)
I was a very happy man.
My wonderful girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year.
So we decided to get married.
There was only one little thing bothering me.
It was her beautiful younger sister, Sofia.
My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight mini
skirts, and generally was Bra-less.
She would regularly bend down when she was near me.
I always got more than a nice view.
It had to be deliberate.
She never did it around anyone else.
One day she called me and asked me to come over.
‘To check my Sister’s wedding- invitations’ she said.
She was alone when I arrived.
She whispered to me that she had feelings and desires for me.
She couldn’t overcome them anymore.
She told me that she wanted me just once before I got married.
She said “Before you commit your life to my sister”.
Well, I was in total shock, and I couldn’t say a word.
She said, “I’m going upstairs to my bedroom” she said.
“If you want one last wild fling, just come up and have me”.
I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs.
I stood there for a moment.
Then turned and made a bee-line straight to the front door.
I opened the door, and headed straight towards my car.
Lord And behold, my entire future family was standing outside, all clapping!
With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me.
He said, ‘Sergio, we are very happy that you have passed our little test.
We couldn’t ask for a better man for our daughter.
Welcome to the family my son..’
Guess what? I was heading towards my car to pick my condom. Have a lovely day people and always think twice b4 taking decisions!
Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old *lessons life taught me.
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will so Stay in touch.
5. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
6. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
7. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
8. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
9. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
10. Get rid of anything that isn’t
useful, beautiful or joyful.
11. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
12. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is
up to you and no one else.
13. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
14. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
15. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
16. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
17. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
18. Forgive everyone for everything.
19. What other people think of you is none of your business.
20. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
21. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
22. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
23. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
24. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young..
25. Get outside everyday. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
26. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
27.Envy is a waste of time,You already have all you need the best is yet to cme.
28.No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
29. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift
Don’t change so someone will like you. Be yourself & the right people will like and love the real you.
Always accept and feel comfortable with your flaws, that way no one can ever use them against you.
Life isnt necsssarily about waiting for the storm to pass….its about learning to dance in the rain
SOLID WORDS FROM COLIN POWELL
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.
Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity.
An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with
negative thinking and negative acting people.
As you grow, your associates will change.
Some of your friends will not want you to go on.
They will want you to stay where they are.
Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl.
Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream.
Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.
Never receive counsel from unproductive people.
Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how.
Not everyone has a right to speak into your life.
You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange
ideas with the wrong person.
Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere.
With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.
Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of
Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.
If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you
associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.
“A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown
by the kind of friends he chooses.”
The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with
whom you closely associate – for the good and the bad.
Note: Be not mistaken.
This is applicable to family as well as friends.
Yes…do love, appreciate and be thankful for your family, for they
will always be your family no matter what.
Just know that they are human first and though they are family to
you, they may be a friend to someone else and will fit somewhere in
the criteria above